About Bill and Janean
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BILL AND JANEAN FULLER were married in 2004 after each of them living 20 years as single, celibate believers. They have five children and six grandchildren between them.
Bill graduated from Denver Seminary with a Masters Degree in Christian Formation. Janean has a Masters Degree in Christian Counseling. Also, she has completed a post-graduate certification from the Sexual Wholeness Institute in clinical Christian Sex Therapy. They’re both Master-Level Christian Mind-Body Work practitioners from the Splankna Institute. This includes Neuro-Emotional Technique (N.E.T.), Thought-Field Therapy (T.F.T.), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (E.M.D.R.), Spiritual Warfare and Applied Kinesiology. Both have been trained in Advanced Theophostic Prayer ministry.
Thoughts on struggling with a lust addiction if you are single.
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Do u have retreats for older mwn and women
Our retreats are for couples of all ages.
Dear Christian Intimacy Experts,
I am a Christian, and I appreciate your life-affirming work.
I recently read Matt Fradd’s terrific book The Porn Myth, which provides medical evidence that solo sex (even without pornography) is not good for our health. All of the Christian books against solo stimulation, like the popular Every Man’s Battle series, urge us to practice solo sexuality as little as possible, but how often has this topic been explored in the world of medical science?
Do you know of any people or organizations that might be familiar with studies or focus groups on the health outcomes for people who abstained for long periods of time from solo sex, relying only on wet dreams for single people, or relying only on sex and wet dreams for married people? I find it hard to believe that such studies or focus groups have never existed, considering how much shame and pain have come into so many people’s lives from solo sex.
I am aware of Dr. Stuart Brody’s article from 2010 for a journal of sexual medicine, where he said that engaging in solo sex has been shown to have negative effects on our health — but I’m looking for the flip side of the coin. I’m looking for studies showing that refraining from solo sex does no harm to us. In his book The Porn Myth, Matt Fradd seems very confident that refraining from solo sex does not harm us, but how is he so sure? I’m disappointed that so many Christian leaders preach against masturbation while rarely if ever quoting from medical science to back up their teaching.
I have heard that sexual release is important for people as a regular biological function. I think many men engage in solo sex because they are afraid that not using your sexual equipment will lead to erectile dysfunction, that is, “if you don’t use it, you lose it.” So, these men end up engaging in solo sex while using pornography, which ironically ends up causing them porn-induced erectile dysfunction — and p.i.e.d. is a lack of sexual functioning that can take many months to recover from.
Christian sexuality effort Clifford Penner, from the organization called Passionate Commitment, says that four wet dreams per year is sufficient to keep a man’s prostate healthy, which was reassuring for me to hear, but I wonder where he got that statistic from.
From what I’ve heard, the only things that cause e.d. (erectile dysfunction) are: age, injury, and pornography. But, there must be a focus group or medical study in the past which has explored the real-world health outcomes resulting from people refraining for years from solo sex, including singles who are waiting on marriage for sex, and also married people whose spouse cannot have sex with them for awhile for whatever reason.
Any feedback or referrals you might have would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks again,
– Bob
I think you’re correct! Solo sex is not life giving. Plus how do you have solo sex without listing. Jesus said that lusting after a woman is adultery. Plus solo sex does not release the satiating hormone of oxytocin so it can become an addiction really quick. Yes, God has provided nocturnal emissions as a way to keep men healthy. Ask my husband. He was single and celibate for 23 years!