Courses

Find out more about our online Divine Desire Courses here.

“What are at-home clinical protocols and how can they ignite our intimacy?”

At-Home Clinical Protocols are our online video courses that use clinical sex therapy “sensate-focus” exercises that we’ve made appropriate for a Christian couple. They help married couples (step-by-step) to infuse their marriage with deeper intimacy, having sex God’s way (oneness, playfulness, romance, and passion) which we call “Divine Desire.” They also help a couple in which one or both spouses are dealing with low desire.

The protocols are designed for a couple to enjoy three “sensate focus” experiences (named “Intimacy Experiences” by us) each week. We’ll also give you Intimacy Experiences you’ll do with the Lord because it’s impossible to enjoy the fullness of intimate “oneness” with your spouse if you’re not intimately “one” with the Lord.

We also have a premarital preparation protocol called “Divine Desire for Engaged Couples”. You’ll learn how to become intimate spiritually, physically (within God’s parameters) and emotionally before marriage and bring your whole being alive, including your sexuality to enjoy after marriage. You’ll learn how to lay a strong foundation for a lifetime of amazing sex and oneness the way the Lord designed.

“What is the benefit of doing at-home online video courses as opposed to one-on-one ministry sessions with Bill and Janean?”

At-home clinical protocols/online video courses are designed for couples for whom committing to a series of sessions or an intensive is not practical for any number of reasons, including finances, schedules, logistics or practicality.

While our at-home clinical protocols/online video courses cannot, by their very nature, provide all the benefits of appointments with us (nor are they designed for couples facing major unresolved trauma), they offer their own unique advantages, including affordability and convenience. Our online video courses include an average of 40 to 60 hours of guided self-study at a fraction of the cost of face-to-face ministry with us. Plus, couples can proceed at their own pace and around their own schedules.

Finally, our at-home clinical protocols/online video courses are often the most practical approach, offering a level of help that is suited to most couples intimacy goals. Certainly, there are couples who have sexual issues that are caused by trauma; in these cases, you can see us via online video sessions or come and see us in person and do an intensive. During our intensives, we focus on doing the Christian Mind-Body Work to address the trauma so you can move forward when you return home. Many couples, however, want to bring their sexual desire, and spiritual and emotional intimacy to a new level the Lord’s way, so they don’t need that level of intervention. For these couples, our online video courses you complete at home offers just the right solution at the right price.

“You mentioned that your Protocols include ‘sensate focus’ exercises. What are these?”

The term “sensate focus” was introduced by sex researchers Masters and Johnson, referring to exercises designed to increase awareness of your own sexuality, as well as that of your spouse. “Sensate focus” consists of specific exercises at increasing sexual desire. During the exercises, both husband and wife are encouraged to focus on what they’re experiencing through their five senses, rather than concentrating on intercourse or orgasm as the primary goal of sex. We make these exercises spiritually relevant to Christian couples and God’s design for “oneness” in marriage.

Sensate focus exercises are clinical in nature and are prescribed by virtually all sex therapists. In a classic therapeutic session, a sex therapist will assign sensate focus exercises for a couple to complete at home. The couple will then return the following week and report on how the exercises went. The sex therapist will adapt or alter the exercise to personalize them to the couple’s triggers so they can try it again at home.

In the process of doing a sensate focus exercise, each person is encouraged to increase his/her awareness and enjoyment of his/her spouse’s body, or focus on the things about your spouse that turn you on, which helps you to embrace your arousal. Each spouse would be guided by his/her own interest and enjoyment, rather than trying to guess what is enjoyable to his/her spouse. In these kinds of exercises, intercourse is typically not allowed, nor is focusing on breasts or genitals—at least at the beginning. We help you to build a foundation of “oneness” and making love God’s way at first and then we gradually introduce the breasts, genitals and finally the most glorious kind of intercourse: communing spiritually, emotionally and physically while receiving pleasure.

We use these sensate focus exercises in our Divine Desire online video courses/protocols; however, Bill has combined his spiritual formation education with Janean’s education in Christian sex therapy to create highly spiritual protocols with a strong emphasis on building intimacy with the Lord along with being intimate with your spouse. We made these Intimacy Experiences romantic, passionate, erotic and playful as well!

 “How will completing the online video courses improve our love life?”

In addition to helping you increase or enhance sexual desire in your marriage or future marriage (if you’re engaged), our online video courses offer other benefits as well. Here are a few of the benefits you can expect to experience:

• Transition from performance to pleasure: The sensate focus exercises in the protocols will encourage you and your spouse to shift the “purpose” of sexual intimacy away from the achievement of orgasms and towards the big O, which the Lord tells us is “oneness.” You’ll also get to discover and enjoy your own pleasure and that of your spouse. This occurs as each of you are guided to, temporarily, focus less on the body parts responsible for orgasm and more on the sensual delights of experiencing your spouse’s entire being in both the comforting familiar ways and the exciting unfamiliar ways.
• A new appreciation for expanded sensual possibilities: Another benefit you and your partner will experience is a new appreciation for a whole new set of sensual possibilities. Our protocols incorporate an array of verbal and nonverbal communication—talking, praying, sharing emotions, touching, kissing, expressing emotions and more—through which you will both experience the kind of sexual intimacy that many Christian couples behold — sensual, transcendent moments of ecstasy where you can glimpse the beauty of God and each other.
• Less anxiety and better sex life: As lovers complete each sensate focus exercise, research shows they often report an improvement in their sex life, as well as lower sexual and emotional anxiety in general.
• Faster return to healthy sexual functioning: Couples who have completed the online video courses say they have experienced a new awareness of the holistic sensual aspects of sex, and a greater return of healthy sexual functioning.
• Increase in romance, passion, eroticism, and playfulness: We’ve turned our protocols into online video courses that combine sensate focus exercises into romance, passion, eroticism, fun, and playfulness.
• Healing through the breaking of soul-ties and strongholds: Our protocols offer the added benefit of some Christian-Mind-Body Work, prayer, contemplation, breaking soul ties and clearing out the marriage bed, and breaking lies, vows and agreements that have given the enemy a stronghold in your life and marriage. As Christians, we believe the Lord is the Agent of Change and healing and we have designed these protocols around every opportunity to invite Him in to do so.
• Increased intimacy with God: Finally, participating in any of our protocols will encourage both you and your spouse to experience greater intimacy with God. Together we have designed these protocols to be spiritual in nature with a strong emphasis on building intimacy with the Lord as well as with your spouse.

“Is the Clinical At-Home Protocol/Video Course done completely on our own or can it also be done in the context of working with you or my own counselor?”

Be aware that our Divine Desire online video courses are resources you’ll use at home so they cannot provide all the benefits of Christian Mind-Body Work, nor the guidance and encouragement that talk therapy does in marriage counseling sessions. These Protocols are designed to help couples who have minor issues. They are not designed to resolve major unresolved trauma for either you or your spouse.

If, in the process of doing our Divine Desire online video course, you and your spouse experience a roadblock for any reason (including unresolved trauma that may have popped up), you have several options: You can schedule a one-on-one video session or an Intensive with us to do the Christian Mind-Body Work to address and resolve the hindering factors, or if we are not available, we can refer you to another Christian, Mind-Body practitioner who is familiar with our Protocol to help you as you continue to move forward doing the Protocol at home. Be aware that unless a mental health counselor has had specific clinical training and certification in sex therapy, he or she is not qualified to work with sexual dysfunctions. They can, however, address other issues (PTSD, communication, codependency, addictions and more) that are responsible for roadblocks to moving forward.

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