So why’d God create sex in the first place? Especially when He knew the enemy would distort His amazing gift of sex, abuse it, and use it to create fear and shame in His children?
It Was Risky Business for God to Create Sex!
Before Adam and Eve came onto the scene the Lord most likely made the choice to create sex. It was a huge decision because the Trinity (Father, Son,
Imagine with me for a moment, the conversation taking place between the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit when they originally formed their intentions for sexuality. By the way, I’d (Janean here) ask you to take off your serious, spiritual cap and put on your silly, fun cap as you read the following scene.
Act 1: His Love is the Reason God Created Sex
On the sixth day before the Trinity created Adam, the Father proposes an idea. Being all-knowing He knows Adam and Eve will fall into temptation, and yet He still proposes, “Let’s create something that’ll keep a husband and wife together as they face the hard things of life, and let’s make it something that is modeled after Our love, and Our covenant with them!”
Act II: The Trinity Agrees it’s Dangerous to Create Sex
Jesus chimes in, “Great idea Yahweh, we’d need to make it so powerful that as they lie in each other’s arms after making love that they’ll fall in love all over again!”
“But ya know it might be really dangerous to create something like that,” the Spirit warns, “Just think how the enemy would take Our gift of making love after the Fall of Adam and Eve and use sex for evil to influence the world and destroy Our children!”
Act III: The Trinity Believes Sex Can Be Redeemed
Sighing, the Father declares, “I think we should still create sex. We can redeem their past, present
“You’re right Papa,” the Spirit agreed, “We’d want sex to glorify us and Our love for One Another. We’ll want to have parameters around it so that the fullness of making love will only be truly enjoyed in marriage. How about we create sex so that new life springs forth into their spirits, souls
Jesus exclaims, “Wow! I love that idea!”
“Hey Jesus, we could model it after Your relationship with the Church” the Spirit continues to envision, “When you go to earth to redeem mankind, You’ll model the kind of love a husband is supposed to have for his wife. Knowing you the way I do, it’ll be Your pleasure to go to the cross and redeem their sexual sin. The husband will learn to represent You, and find out it actually gives him
Jesus’ face lights up, “You do know Me well; it’ll be the joy set before me to endure the shame of the cross in their place so they can experience Our eternal love!”
Act IV: A Married Couple Will Learn to Give “Life” to One Another During Sex
The Spirit replies, “What do you think about creating a feminine soul that loves to respond to her husband’s adoration. She’ll love putting herself under his mission of serving her, and giving himself up for her just as the Church responds to You Jesus because You first did it for them. The feminine heart can then flourish as she becomes a dignified, trusting, open and vulnerable woman enjoying her husband’s pursuit.”
“I love that! It’s exactly the opposite of what she’ll believe about Us when the enemy deceives her at the Fall; that We don’t have good hearts toward her and she can’t trust Us,” exclaims the Father, “But there’s one danger, they might think we’re only creating the gift of sex to have children or to glorify the oneness in Our relationship. They might not even see that it’s Our gift for them to enjoy!”
Act V: Pleasure Will Be the Guarantee They’ll Make Love Often
“So we gotta create something so powerful that they’ll love doing it again and again . . .” Jesus pauses caught up in thought, “We’ll attach the most amazing experience with making love that comes from the husband and wife serving one other. They’ll want to come together often because our gift of intense pleasure will
“They’ll definitely see it as a gift then!” exclaims the Father, “And lest they think that the pleasure is only for the husband, or so they’ll pro-create we’ll create a tiny little organ that we place on the wife so that it’s
“I get where you’re going with that!” says Jesus to the Father with a twinkle in His eye.
“And we’ll make it hard for him to find . . .” the Father laughs.
“Hide it really well Yahweh,” answered the Spirit. “I’m seeing the vision now. He’ll need to intentionally focus on serving her to cause her to feel such ecstasy!”
“And he’ll have to hold onto his identity is in Us to uncover her mystery!” says the Spirit.
Jesus responds, “I’m excited, let’s go to the drawing board!”
They all begin walking toward the Creation Room, “And we’ll need her to have something he’s very attracted to visually, like creating her curvaceous and cushy with these two soft pillows . . .,” imagines the Spirit.
The Trinity is So For Sex!
Don’t you see? The Trinity is so for sex! After all, the Trinity—made up of God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit, came up with the idea of sex in the first place (even in the face of the vicious opposition and distortion they knew would most certainly come). Do you see how determined and fierce the Trinity was in creating this gift of sex for you and your current or future spouse? Even knowing it would ultimately require the sacrificial death of his son Jesus (at an unfathomable price) to heal and redeem what would be lost, but the Trinity didn’t hesitate.
Its a fact, God designed Adam and Eve to enjoy the profound gift of sexual intimacy, and He has designed you for the same thing!
Our Journey:
After the shocker of our wedding night, and during our honeymoon, we began to see glimpses of how beautifully gorgeous Christian lovemaking could be. There were glorious moments when we were free to enjoy one another fully and we didn’t care about performance. And Guess what? Neither of us had ever been loved like that before!
It’s been a journey for sure. Each of us continues to experience healing and redemption in our sexual woundedness and shame, which includes performance anxiety and withdrawing for Bill, and insecurity and the fear of abandonment for Janean. The good news is that we’re allowing the Lord to heal and redeem our sexuality so the natural outcome is the glorious times in our lovemaking are becoming the rule rather than the exception.
Here’s what Janean has to say about the journey:
Bill was and still is to this day an amazingly selfless lover. He walks into his masculinity and loves to provide pleasure for me. Fewer and fewer are the moments when he reverts to being a selfish lover, concerned more with his performance and his needs than with me. In those moments, anxiety takes over, and he not only loses himself but me and the Lord too!
There have also been times I’ve felt like a burden to Bill, and I’ve blamed myself for his lack of pursuit of me, thinking that if I were more beautiful or sexy he would want me.
But increasingly, I’m free to simply relax in the shade of his love and be in the moment. I actually don’t care about the flab in my stomach or how old I’m getting. I know that I’m gorgeous no matter what weight, or age I am because my beauty goes far deeper than that. This has made me an uninhibited lover, moving me beyond restrictions and expectations so that I’m free to see lovemaking as a mystery. It’s a delight to see what will be uncovered and where we’ll go when we make love.
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